How to Tease Your Backdoor: Anal Teasing

How to Tease Your Backdoor: Anal Teasing

Anal sex is one of the most popular sexual fantasies for both men and women. 

If you're thinking about introducing some backdoor fun to your sex life, then you don't have to dive straight in. There's plenty of fun to be had without indulging in full-blown anal sex.

Anal teasing is a great way to take your first steps into the world of butt play. How far you want to take it is totally up to you.

Read on to learn some anal tease tips to take things to the next level.

Use Lube

One of the most common concerns regarding anal sex is that it's going to hurt. Good sex should never hurt, unless you want it to!

That's why it's so important to use lube. Whilst other orifices produce their own natural lubricants, anal play requires a little help. Using a good lube specifically designed for anal fun will ensure that everything is properly lubricated and will reduce the risk of unwanted pain. If you are new to backside pleasure, we recommend using Tush Cush, a hybrid formula lube made to provide extra cush to your backdoor play. Seasoned professional? Try Silicone Sex Lube for extra slip and glide during those backdoor marathon sessions.

Start With a Finger

The key to enjoyable anal teasing is to start small and work your way up. This gives everybody time to relax and discover the pleasures that anal play can bring.

One of the best ways to start is with a lubed finger. Start with the pinky; apply lube to the finger and over your anus. Slowly slide the tip of your pinky inside. You might want your partner to do this, or you might prefer to try this yourself first. Slowly rub your finger around your ring until it begins to open up a little. 

Move up to a larger finger, or try inserting your finger a little further. Take things slowly and if you feel uncomfortable, stop. 

Graduate to Anal Toys

If your finger play has gone well and you're ready to move on to something a little bigger, then anal toys are a great next step.

That's because anal toys are designed to be graduated. It means that you can start off slowly inserting just the tip of the toy. When you feel comfortable, you can insert a little more.

There are a number of different toys you can try. Butt plugs are ideal for slowly getting used to the sensations involved in anal teasing. Silicone Plugs & Buzzy Butt are great for teasing and training the backside. Anal beads are another good option. Anal dildos are also a good choice; these are designed specifically for anal play and are often more comfortable to use than a traditional vibrator.

Start Small

The secret of any teasing is to have the recipient desperate for more. There's nothing quite as sexy as being teased and knowing that there is more to come.

That's why starting small is always the way to go. If you start anal play with the largest possible toy that your partner can take, then there's nowhere left to go. Starting small, but having larger toys (or other things!) ready to go provides that delicious anticipation that makes teasing so exquisite.

Many anal toys will come in various sizes that let you work your way up. Starting with a small toy, knowing that there is a bigger toy to come can be a huge turn on.

Starting small is also the best way to ensure that things don't get too uncomfortable, which will only put a downer on the experience.

Take Your Time

Another key component of any sexual teasing is drawing out the anticipation.

If you just rush from one stage to the next, there's no time to enjoy that sense of anticipation. Take your time over everything that you do. When your partner is ready to try the next phase, don't let them yet. Keep them waiting so that when you finally give them what they want, it's even more exquisite.

Be sure to follow their cues, though; you don't want them getting bored waiting for you to take the next step!

Communication Is Key

Which brings us to one of the most important sex tips: communication is everything.

It's all too easy in any sexual situation to misread things. What you take for a moan of pleasure could just as easily be a moan of discomfort. Talk to each other and be sure that you're always on the same page. There's no need to rush things; if you don't get as far as you'd hope the first time you try, it's not the end of the world.

Talk to each other before, during, and after your anal play. You may find that there is something you wanted to try but were too afraid to ask that your partner was desperate for you to do to them.

Know When To Stop

The most important thing when trying anything new is knowing when to stop.

Anal play is exciting, and it can be tempting to keep trying larger and larger things when you feel like you're on a roll. There is a point, however, when it can stop being pleasurable and tip over into simply uncomfortable. Listen to your body, and if you're the one doing the anal teasing, listen to your partner.

Stopping doesn't mean the end of the line. It just means you know how far you can go next time you try things.

Ready to Try Out Some of These Anal Tease Tips?

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