This is all about getting to know yourself with nothing but what you already have…no toys, no batteries, no videos, nothing but your body, your hands, and your imagination.
Only once you know what you like (and can articulate it to your partner!) can you expect them to be able to give you the pleasure you want and deserve.
Here’s the thing: when you’re unfamiliar with your own sexual preferences, you can’t really communicate them either before, during, or after sex. So, the point of solo sex is to get in touch with yourself…all in service of better partnered sex. We can feel shy when we don’t know or feel confident in our preferences—so practicing alone can up your confidence (not to mention the hotness factor).
And if you’ve never masturbated, never fear—you are not alone. There are plenty of people who have never gotten it on with themselves—and plenty of people who want to learn how to do it better! Pleasuring yourself has so many benefits for you—you’ll learn all about your likes and dislikes, turn-ons, and triggers. And when you know what you like, you can share that with your partner!
When both of you have explored on your own, come back together (pun intended!) to have hotter and more connected sex.
Medical information reviewed by Dr. Paige Kuhlman, a leading women’s urologist and Senior Medical Advisor at Hello Cake.