Masturbation During The Coronavirus Pandemic
How to masturbate during the COVID-19 pandemic
Let’s be honest – it’s hard to find love (and self-love) during the age of COVID-19.
Social distancing makes it damn near impossible to even get close to someone, let alone make some moves or get freaky with a stranger.
So you may be starting to think: might as well just do it myself, right?
And not everyone in your household might agree to you getting your fantasies on wherever you want in such close proximity.
But the only person that needs to have feelings about you masturbating is you – and the consent of anyone else who’s involved.
So let’s get into why shame-free masturbation is important, especially during the COVID-19 pandemic, and how you can do it in the way that best suits your tastes.
Why is masturbation important?
Masturbation has a long list of science-backed benefits, including:
- reducing stress
- improving sleep
- improving your mood
- making you feel relaxed
- reducing tension or cramps
There’s some evidence that regular solo play can even reduce your cancer risk – a 2016 study of nearly 32,000 men suggests that masturbating regularly can make you less likely to develop prostate cancer in adulthood.
This study isn’t conclusive, and there’s evidence out there to suggest the opposite. But it’s important to take the many health claims out there about solo play with a grain of salt – and remember that many other factors like diet impact your overall health.
Masturbating regularly can also help you figure out what elements of your environment can help or hinder you. This can allow you to get a sense of how to get off without worrying if having a wank will actually end up making you feel better in the end.
Here are some questions you can ask yourself as you slowly but surely discover what the best time, place, and method of masturbation looks like for you:
- Do you like masturbating with the lights on or off? Maybe dimmed down?
- Do you like watching porn before, during, or after? Or not at all?
- Do you prefer to masturbate alone? With your partner? With friends?
- Where you do like to masturbate most? In bed? In the bath or shower? In the kitchen? In the backyard? Switching it up?
- Do you prefer to use toys like vibrators, rings, or clamps? Do you prefer to use no toys at all?
- Do you like to use lube, jelly, or lubricant? Or just go in completely dry?
How to remember what you like while Masturbating (and how tell your future partner what you like in the bedroom)
Sometimes, when you’re caught in the heat of the moment, you forget exactly what you did to hit that perfect spot.
Sure, you may not always achieve the same orgasm twice, but here are some tips for taking note of what you did to get that sweet satisfaction:
- Keep a journal to write down everything you did and how you set up your environment to make your solo sesh come alive.
- Take pictures of your environment and any extras you used – your surroundings, the lighting, the toys, and even the furniture or objects you used.
- Use a smart toy! Yes, there are electronic sex toys[TJ3] out there that can track your body’s activities and give you “biofeedback” – this means that the toy gives you data in the form of charts and graphs that show you exactly what’s happening in your body when you masturbate and how the different settings affected your body’s response.
- Try to explain to yourself what you just did. If you can put into words for yourself what feels good and what doesn’t, that can make it easier to replicate a particularly good solo sesh and communicate it to your partner (now or in the future).
Logging or experimenting with your solo play can help you discover what exactly you’re into. And this can help you learn what your needs may be when having sex with a partner or partners to make any sex you have even better.
- Are you the type who needs some time to warm up? Does it take you a long time before you feel ready to come? You may want to ask your partner to take it slow before jumping into intercourse.
- Like it fast, hard, and quick? You may learn exactly what spots to hit on your penis, in your butt, or elsewhere on your body (neck, lips, chest) so that your partner knows how to give it to you the way you like it. [m4] [TJ5]
Why is masturbation good for you during COVID-19?
Obviously, hooking up isn’t easy when you’re supposed to stay at least six feet away from everyone at all times. And even if you’re into wearing masks or gloves in bed, the fear of getting or spreading COVID-19 can make it hard to get into the mood.
Masturbation is a solo activity, so you don’t need to worry about any of that when you’re practicing self-love.
And it’s also a stress reliever, so masturbation may be just what you need to offload some of that tension from being cooped up alone or with others.
And since we’re all washing our hands at least a thousand times a day, you don’t need to worry that you’re going to spread the virus through your genitals if you practice good hygiene (also, the virus doesn’t spread through genital or sexual contact, anyway).
In fact, it’s safe to mutual-masturbate with a partner (or two, or three) as long as you all wash your hands and take proper precautions like wearing a mask – the extra taboo may even make the experience more titillating.
9 tips for maximum masturbation pleasure
You ready to try some of the best ways to masturbate (or revisit some old favorite techniques)?
Here’s[TJ8] our advice for getting the most out of your me-time:
- Try different positions. Figure out how different positions affect the pleasure you feel – sitting, lying down, on your back, on your knees, against a wall, face down and butt up – don’t be afraid to experiment.
- Play around with pressures. Stroke it softly, grip hard and squeeze, or find something in between.
- Use different strokes. Jacking off doesn’t have to be just up and down the shaft – try stroking side to side, diagonally up and down, or whatever else feels good. Here are some ideas:
- Move your hips to the rhythm. Thrust your pelvis back and forth or side to side to enhance the sensation. Grind your penis against your bed, couch, or other surface.
- Try edging. This means that you get yourself right up to the “edge” before coming – and then you stop so that you don’t orgasm. This can build up the sexual tension and make the eventual release that much more satisfying.
- Use some lube. Some new pressure or stroking styles may feel even more satiating (and keep your skin from chafing) with some masturbation lube, masturbation cream, masturbation lotion.
- Unplug from technology. It can be easy to get distracted if you have your phone, TV, or laptop on. Try shutting off all your electronics so that you can focus on your personal intimacy and avoid the chance that you get an email alert the moment you’re about to come.
- Free up your schedule. Unless you’re trying to squeeze in a solo sesh in the middle of the day, give yourself some time to relax, explore, and take a breather from the rhythm of your day to focus on playing with yourself. Reducing the time pressure on yourself can make the experience even more enjoyable.
- Fantasize! You never know what will give you that extra imaginative edge during solo play – pay close attention to the experiences, people, or places that stimulate you during your everyday life and think about them while you’re playing with yourself. Just remember that there’s no such as “weird” or “abnormal” when it comes to fantasizing – whatever’s in your head is only for you.
If you’re ready to try some lube, we recommend Motion Lotion[TJ9] – it’s a coconut-based jelly that uses the magic of chemistry (and coconuts, and avocados) to warm up in your hands while you’re using it.
Takeaways From Masturbation
Masturbation is a practice as old as time (and genitals) itself.
So loving yourself should never come with strings attached, especially when so much else in the world seems scary and uncertain – your sexual health is just as important as your physical health.
By Timothy Jewell
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